How to Avoid The "I'll Be Confident When" Trap #MotivationWednesdays

I'm a young woman still struggling with self esteem issues. I'm not afraid to say it. But one of the ways I know that I'm a self-doubt junkie in recovery is that I recognise all the traps that stand in the way of me truly being happy with myself.

One of these traps is the "I'll be confident when.." Trap. She's really good friends with the "I'll be Happy When" Trap. Don't act like you don't know what I'm talking about. Ok, let me explain.

What we're gonna do right now is go back to a time when 12 year old Patty (me) had long -ish natural hair but longed for bone straight relaxed hair. All she would think was, I'll be so confident when my hair is long and straight, every one will love me especially boys.

Skip ahead four years when her mother finally gives her the ok to relax her hair. Patty expects her long-ish natural hair to become extra long bone straight hair. No her hair comes out limp and flat and the hair dresser gives her some kind of Mary Tyler Moore Brady Bunch flip at the ends which looks nothing like the hair Patty asks her for. Am I more confident now. Nope I hate my hair.

And so the "I'll Be confident When" Trap struck me, but I was an unsuspecting victim.

Now I realise that the secret- and it's more common sense than a secret- is to be happy and confident in the skin I'm in right now. Whether, my hair is Nappy or Straight, hips plus or minus a few inches, boobs up or down a cup size. It's me, it's all I've got and I have to love it for my own good.

I'm still on the journey to being completely happy with myself but now I can see the negative thought-potholes in my way.

Have you ever fell into the "I'll be confident when.. "or her bff "I'll be Happy when.." Trap, Tell me me your story in the comments.

Thai Gov't Donates Skin Bleach to Haiti!!??

I'm not sure if this is true or not but I read an article here that the government of Thailand has donated 50,000 bottles of Skin Lightening Cream to the help the people of Haiti "feel better about themselves" while they're standing in line for their UN food shipments. (O_O)

This may be old news but it's news to me. The article continues:

" 'Thailand is a compassionate nation,” said Foreign Minister Kasit Piromya. “We noticed in the news that the Haitians are all very dark-skinned. This is surely one of the reasons they are living in poverty. With lighter skin they could be more successful.'"

Sounds like the Thai gov't is reading the Book of Life according to Sammy Sosa.

But is this for real though? It sounds crazy but we've seen babies with lace-fronts so anything is possible.

I haven't been able to verify it with news sources that I consider more credible. But have you heard about this. If you have, what do you think about the Thai donation.

Leave an answer in the comments

Trini Carnival Retrospective in Pictures

As promised more Carnival Pics and video. Sorry I took so long, see previous post for why. Hope to see you in a band next year!

I Spread Myself too Thin..

Image by yomi955

Have you ever felt so burdened by your commitments that you forget about doing all the things that made you happy. Well that's how I've been feeling for the last couple weeks - more like a month which explains why this blog and my life to be honest has been so dry lately..

But I'm making an official commitment here to do the things that I love.. including blogging. So here we go..